Love...

What is true love? I don't mean someone you like because of his or her looks or his or her popularity. I'm talking about if you like someone for who they actually are, and how they make you feel.

Do you believe true love can actually exist?

(SD66 said i should stay here for Serious Disscussion, at least.)

Love... very interesting subject.

Sadly, I know someone who said love is a process. "First, you date a girl. Next, you have sex with her. Finally, you dump her. Repeat process weekly, with new girl each time."I know it sounds like a joke, but the person who said it truly meant it. Very shallow.

What may be even more shallow though, is loving someone for their looks alone. That is the lowest of the low when it comes to love. If you're going to love someone, don't let it be on a sexual attraction alone. You may love it when you're having sex, but then what? Do you enjoy her company? Do you enjoy being with her? Do you enjoy doing other activities with her? If your love is on looks alone, then the answer is more than likely NO.

Love... is a speacial bond between two people. Guy and girl, guy and guy, girl and girl- it doesn't matter. Love should be more than the little feeling you get in your stomach when you see the person you love. It should be that you smile when he/she smiles. You laugh when he/she laughs. You should be able to be cheered up b their presence, even if you're in the crappiest of moods(SD66 should know all about this).

Sharing interest with one another, IMO, is very important to love. It will help you two talk more freely, and like doing more things together. It will build a strong foundation to the relationship.

Better throw this out there right now: I don't feel that it's truly TRUE LOVE when you are dating someone around the age of 14 and below. Because honestly, are you going to spend the rest of your life with that person? If your truly live someone, you should have no fear of doing this. You should be able to look into his/her eyes and see your future: the future with the one you live... and smile.

If you do spend the rest of your life with someone you started dating at a younger age, good for you.

Do I believe true love can exist? Absolutely. There should be that certain someone who you just totally feel that connection to the first time you meet. That you are 100% commited to.

I said in the 'What is our Purpose' topic that I belive desting controls only the big things in your life. I believe destiny will lead you to the one you were meant to love even after death, despite any obstacle that comes your way.

Love is a score of zero in tennis.

Other than that, it's tough to define. All I can say is you'll know it when you've got it. Until your hormones balance out a bit more though, I'd avoid trying to find it. Chances are (based on median age), if you are a member of this forum, you haven't found it.

For me, love is someone who stays with me, despite getting to know me.

I'm gunna go ahead and build off of an old Penny Arcade and say that love is something you feel toward material objects, and something you feel towards another person which is simialr to the aforementioned love but dwarfs it in comparison can't be described by words in the English language.

I think I once read from somewhere that the affection of two people is stronger the longer they look into each others eyes the first time they meet.

There's someone who makes me smile by her presence alone, even if it was only through the internet. She is apparently the only person with whom I've found eyecontact with, I believe. Of course, there are other reasons that make two people more affected to each other. There must be. (At this point I'd like to remain that the culture here is a bit different. People don't seem to look each other in the eyes much when talking with each other and so on.)

Love is something I really cannot explain, as I've had little experience with it. I doubt I could explain it even if I had.

I'm going to cut the scientifilogic gibberish, quit ruining everyone's days with it and remain silent...

~Lukki

This one's easy.

True love means continuing to love someone even after all the cute fuzzies are gone. It means doing the right thing even if it hurts you. Most relationships are about infatuation and addiction (hur hur, I liks teh seks)- NOT love. True Love happens after your infatuation is over; after the fire is gone and hard times fall, will you continue to do the right thing for her?

Like Rob said,

And yes, true love most definitely exists.

Love differs depending on the person. Love isn't a SPECIFIC emotion that everyone feels EXACTLY the same way.

As for TRUE love, that's when you get that feeling that you define to yourself as LOVE, instead of just lieing to yourself about it.

I have NO clue what you just said about true love, Final.

I agree with the first part - love is different for each individual. The object of our love can differ, as can the intensity, the situation, etc.

Your definition of love, however, makes no sense to me. Got any examples?

Love is a pang you feel in your heart when you think you've found someone you really think would make a nice person to spend the rest of your life with. I've felt this feeling and also had this feeling felt towards me. The pang is very pronounced and causes tunnel vision, shortness of breath, increased heart rate, nervousness, and urge to bear truthfully with the object of your affections. Typically, it's felt in the elated "asking out" phase of a concious friendship.
On the neurochemical level, it causes the release of adrenaline and triggers the emotional sector of the brain to high levels. It can be triggered by elevated levels of lust and feelings of adoration and happyness. The adrenaline typically remains in the system for a while, which dumbs down the senses and the "thinking" part of the brain, effectively rendering the phrase "love is blind t it's fullest use."
The effect is sudden, powerful, and fairly shaking, and baby when you feel it you go f-in crazy!

I'm gonna pull a wedding crashers
"True Love is the soul's recognition of it's spiritual counterpart"
How about that, eh?

True love can exist but like all precious things it is rare and very hard to come by.

Love, by all means in my mind is a mere word that the humans made up. No one really knows what it is. It is just as the oracle from the Matrix says, you cannot know whether or not you are in love, but once you are, you will know it. But then again, there could be no definition for such a thing called love. I'd rather make an abstract phenomenon that happens throughout the planet and maybe even universe. It is something as human as breathing and knowing you are breathing. debating true love is like debating the existence of mankind. I believe it is impossible, there are just too many takes and too many different personal biases. There is no way this debate will ever have a final consensus or even agreement. Everyone will continue to have their own personal views on this topic and no one is going to listen to nobody. I for one never experienced true love and therefore probably isn't the best to talk here. But I do believe true love, if exists as a concrete form can save planet Earth and humanity.

Love the thing that keeps you from cheating on your fiance despite being separated by 6000 miles for 10 months. Love and fear of bodily harm on her return.

Pretty much, scientifically acurate. It's generally the first 6 to eight weeks (I think, maybe it's 12) you are with someone and you can't get enough of them. There are chemical things that happen that make you go crazy about this person. After that time, the chemical reactions die down and you can really begin to see each other. It's after your heart doesn't skip a beat every time you see someone and yet you still want to be with that person, that is when you find out what true love is. True love isn't the squshy feeling in your stomach or your racing heart and sweaty palms.

This is obviously the love between two unrelated people. I can say that I truly love my sister. I will defend her (however rediculous she may be acting) I will go out of my way for her. I have taken care of her even at times it was inconvenient to me. This love will be between us until the day we both die and is in absolutly no way sexual or based on attraction. And I know, without a doubt, I will truly love my children. True love, I think, is sometimes thought of as unconditional love.

I also agree with the person that said something along the lines of love simply being a word that humans created. It's a concept. It's an abstract feeling that cannot be specifically defined because it is not definate.

P.S. I love you Robert

My theory of romantic love is based off of watching and observing relationships around me, being whether strong or falling apart.

Love is willing to put up with shit no matter what just to be with one person. Dating somebody in school, and spending the rest of your life with somebody are two completely different things. When you're dating, everything tends to be happy. You're going on dates, having fun with your date, and occasionally getting laid.

Then when you're done with dating, all of the sudden, things go to hell. When you move in together. You're no longer just hanging out, and going on dates, you get to learn how your lover truly is. You learn all of their horrible habits like when it comes to cleaning, shopping, bathroom etiquette, dining room etiquette, bedroom etiquette. You learn every irritating thing they do.

Then economics come to play, hopefully you're both good workers, because in todays economy it's practically impossible to live somewhere without both people working. If you're not getting money, your home's at stake, and your lover will pressure you into working harder, because he/she will be damned if they're pulling the buck. Why the hell should they? It takes two, not one.

It gets tiresome, and stress builds up between them, and it seems that there's no incentive towards being together with this person. If you're not in love, there is no reason to stay together. Get the hell out of there, and dump their ass. However, if you are in love, then you just get used to putting up with all of this shit, because nothing in the world worth having is easy to keep, and if you love this person, it will be more than worth it.